Try talking. Going through something? Try talking. Unexplainable emotions? Try talking. Bad day? Try. Talking. That’s all you ever get to hear- try talking. But what if talking about it is the greatest challenge that you face? Those emotions that you go through, what if you really can’t find enough words to explain them? What do you do then? Do you let those emotions eat you away? Or, do you just pretend like its all okay? I was actually one of those people who pretended like everything’s just fine (on some levels, I still do). But the down side of being “Miss Perfect Life” is that you hide away the real you and don’t find the solution to your problems, as a result of which at some point, those emotions that you’d shut away in some corner of your mind come rushing out and make life even more difficult.
So what is the solution to this? First of all, going through something like this can make you an escapist-you try getting out of anything that would make you face the reality, be it social gatherings or just normal conversations with someone who was once your closest person. So the first step is acceptance. Accept those feelings and emotions because honestly, they aren’t your worst enemies, they make you who you are – human. Acceptance also makes it easier to understand the root cause.
Once that’s done, you can move to step two – introspect. This is the time for you to understand yourself – your feelings, thoughts and motives. There’s always a reason behind why you’re feeling what you’re feeling. Try to understand that. Now this is not always as easy as it sounds. It takes a lot of effort. Also for this, you might need to get in touch with that close friend to whom you once clearly showed the door while you were busy hiding away from the real you. Your friends and family are the greatest treasures in the world. They’ll help you through your difficult times even though you think they won’t understand. Trust me, I’ve been you. Admit to them that you haven’t been on your best behavior for a while now and promise yourself that you’re going to fix your relationship with them because the first rule for any healthy relationship is honesty. Often in times like these we lose out on most of our relationships so it’s always important to fix those before doing anything else. This gives us a new and a different positive outlook towards the whole situation. It makes our bonds stronger. So acceptance and stronger bonds lead to an easier mind for sharing feelings.
Of course, it will not be a cakewalk. But one step at a time, with your best buddy can get you out of the deepest emotional suffering. From random conversations about football to more meaningful ones about life, just try talking and it’ll all be okay. There’s always light at the end of the tunnel.