The view today!
I honestly believe our dads are the most underrated people in our lives. Whenever we succeed at something we always go rushing to our mums and declare to the world that we’re here because of the love and support shown by our mothers.
But what about Dad? Why don’t our fathers ever get the credit they deserve? After all, they are also the reason we are who we are today.
My dad, whom I call by various names -“Paa”, “Appa”, “Dad”, and “Papa”, is the silent watcher in my life. He is the one who watches me make mistakes and quietly pulls me out of my mess and let’s me believe that I did all the hard work. He makes me understand the value of things in life and yet never says no to any of my desires. His is the arm behind my back making sure I don’t fall every time I stumble. He is the one who smiles at my silliness and worries about every teeny tiny scratch I get. He loves me like his little girl but never forgets to remind me that I’m strong, brave and capable of achieving everything I set my heart on.
My mother has provided me unconditional love and support but it is my father who gave me the strength to get through life with the courage to never let anyone put me down. So while June 18th (India’s fathers’ day) is a bit far off, I’ll take this day as the opportunity to say Thank you dad for being my real life super hero. I love you.
There’s always a thought, a fear, when you’re stepping out into something new. You’re not sure of what you’ll meet out there and just the feeling of uncertainty makes you tremble. You start sweating and feel that chill run down your spine, that fuzziness of thoughts and that fear that you might barf!
But then, you hold yourself together. Tell your mind to simply shut up! And take the leap. That sweat on your forehead? It is no longer ‘chilly’; it is that cool comfort you get when you stand in front of the AC after a long run knowing that you’ve achieved something. That trembling you experienced before that made your knees go weak vanishes the moment you get a grip of your wandering mind.
It’s a whole new feeling – one you should force yourself to experience whenever you feel like you cannot do something.
No matter what age group you belong to, no matter what country you call your home, there’s always a list of “personalities” that’s common to all our friends. The personalities that make you go “Oh I know someone like that too!!” Now just to be clear, I mean it in the most positive way! I am not writing this post to crib about my friends. Just to be clear, because you know, there’s that friend too who takes everything as “Was that about me?!”
So while I’ve been working, chilling and mostly observing, I’ve also been getting thoughts about my friends, about who has what kind of a pattern of behavior and who does what and why (yes, apparently I have a lot of time). And now that it’s 2AM and it’s clearly the time for normal people to sleep, I am that friend who stays wide awake writing about her own friends (all kinds).
So what kind of friends do I have?
1. The one who’s always right (or so they think)
Yeah, no matter what you say or do, you’ll always be wrong and they’ll always be right. And just in case they do realise that they’re wrong, they’ll end the conversation with “anywaaayyyy”
2. The one who’s always being “pursued”
There aren’t enough people of the opposite sex in the world when it comes to people trying to woo them. Even the guy looks at her by mistake is added to the list of guys who were hitting on her.
3. The one with no time
Be it 10am or 6pm or even 10pm, they just never have time. No-one knows what keeps them so busy but all you ever get to hear about is how “stuffed” their schedule is. However, it is pretty funny how they always have time to crib about not having time.
4. The one with the sob story
These are the friends who always end up screwing things up with you but somehow they’re always ready with a sob story. They annoy you and get on your nerves but in the end, their story, which you know is a big fat lie, makes you forgive them anyway.
5. The one who is all about fashion
You don’t need to check on latest trends because they’re a walking-talking fashion magazine for you. You name it and they’ll be ready with samples and demos for you.
6. The one who’s always hungry but never has money
We all know someone like that! The one who’ll sit with you in the cafeteria and whine about starving but will gorge on your money and will “promise” to pay back. When? We may never know.
7. The super social one
These friends cannot stop club-hopping. You name an event and you can be sure to get a facebook “check-in” from them. They know who’s doing what in life because they’re simply in touch with everyone.
8. The antisocial one
Those who just love their own home and their comfort zones. Meeting people is a pain for them and something that would require great efforts. Their idea of fun is having you over and just chatting.
9. The one who disappears
Yes! There are those friends too who just disappear for months and then return later with either a new found love for themselves or a sob story to explain what went wrong.
10. The mom of the group
The one with the dos and donts list. Because, you can never have too many moms right? This friend takes it as her major responsibility to make sure that all her friends are safe and happy.
The world has too many people with different personalities. But some are just common to all.
It’s September 5th, 2016, today! It’s Teachers’ Day in India! It’s that one day of the year when we shower all our love on our teachers whom we crib and cry about the rest of the days of the year. So this post is dedicated to all those teachers who have made us who we are today.
- When we’re born we’re handed over to our parents who become the first teachers in our lives. They teach us how to walk, talk, smile, clap, love, appreciate, pray and so much more. They build the blocks on which we base our lives. So cheers to them, happy teachers day mum and dad!
- Then, we grow up with siblings, elder or younger. We look up to our elder siblings and learn how to be cool, we learn how to be humble and we learn how to love. Younger ones on the other hand teach you how to share, care and be responsible. Siblings teach us how we can fight like cats and dogs and still love someone more than anything in the world. So cheers to them, happy teachers day Di!
- We all adore our grandparents, don’t we? They’re the cutest people you’ll ever meet who are ready to pamper you and spoil you crazy. But they also teach you the importance of family and unity. They teach you how to respect elders and their experiences in life are always great stories with crucial life lessons. So cheers to them, happy teachers day Babaji, Dadi, Nani & Daddy!
- Oh the love for cousins! Your friends in your family who are your partners in crime for all the crazy deeds you do! But they teach you so much about living together and respecting one another. They are the ones who teach you what it’s like to be a part of a gang even before you could actually spell “gang”. So cheers to them, happy teachers day dear cousins!
- Friends are forever and always they say! But they never say that they are amazing teachers too! Your friends with different personalities, likes, dislikes, beliefs teach you what it’s like to have differences and still respect one another. Their determination and ambition in life teaches you to work hard and achieve the highest levels of success for yourself. They are your family who teach you the purest form of love. So happy teachers dear friends!
- Teachers, well, the name is very clear isn’t it? They help you reach where you want to be in life, and for those of us with no clue, they help us identify our talents and work towards perfecting them. They make your school life the best ever phase of your life. I can say this with confidence because I did have amazing teachers and even today I love them and respect them dearly. Happy teachers day dear teachers!
- Well, the newest members of the family, who for me is my sister’s husband. Who taught me that it’s okay to let new people into your life. He taught me that new family members mean one more person to adore you and care for you and a new bff for you. He taught me that my sister can be more loved than she already was. So thank you, and happy teachers day to you too bro!😉
- Good phases are great teachers too. They teach you to appreciate and count your blessings. They teach you to be thankful and humble. They teach you to smile and be jolly. Happy teachers day good phases!
- Bad phases are excellent teachers. They are the ones we hate the most but who end up teaching the best lessons of life. They teach you to be brave, determined and hopeful. They teach you to look at the brighter side and force yourself to get better. They teach you something every second without us even realising. So happy teachers day to you too bad phases.
- How could I not mention books? Aren’t they your best friends and best teachers? Every page of every story speaks to us in ways we could never imagine. Love, faith, bravery, relations, fun, unity, every story has something to teach us. So happy teachers day to the books too!
We have so many such teachers in our lives that it’s in a way impossible to list them all down. But the point is that life is filled with teachers and thus it’s the best school to ever be in. It’s that one school where all of us get admission irrespective of our gender, caste, race, religion or economic backgrounds. It’s that one place where we all learn valuable lessons like equals. So happy teachers day life.
There’s always something or the other that stops us from living life to the fullest. There’s always a threat, a lingering fear at the back of the mind saying “What if?” Most of the doubt and fear comes from the feeling that makes you realise that things aren’t perfect. Be it your relationship, your career, or even someone’s life. You always have a fear of failing, of parting ways or of losing someone you love.
Then comes a moment when your fears turn into reality. You break up, you get divorced, you get fired or someone dies. It breaks your heart and makes your life a nightmare. You feel lost and helpless with no light to guide you ahead. You might have your friends and families picking up your broken pieces, trying to patch them up into the best version of you. But you give up and see no hope.
What most of us fail to realise is that our lives are a combination of moments. Good, bad, ugly, or glorifying moments. But the thing about moments is that they don’t last. They come into our lives to bring about a change, do their thing and pass. Moments pass. They don’t stick around to make things worse or to see their consequences.
So when you know that a moment has passed, why dwell over it and make the next one worse? Why not tell yourself to get a grip and get moving? I know it’s easier said than done. But now that I think of it, it’s not impossible either.
Every relationship has its own advantage. I don’t think any relationship has a disadvantage unless it’s a toxic relationship which kills your desire to just be. (Those are bad! Snap out of it and live your life no matter how tempting they may be)
Now, you either grow up as a single child or you grow up with siblings. I grew up with an elder sister. And it’s her birthday today (I know you’ll read this Di, so happy Birthday from my WordPress account too!). We have an age gap of five years and it would be silly not to mention that I was ALWAYS the brat.
I think she was just 6 or 7 when she got used to being my guardian, and then growing up in the same school too made it even more obvious for me to rush to her the moment someone bullied me. I remember always coming home and crying about X, Y or Z troubling me and then my parents telling my sister to take care of it the next day (which meant meet the teacher of course!). So she always knew my troubles. And she was always there no matter how annoying I was.
The weird thing was that being the younger one, I never really showed much interest in her life because I was always too engrossed in my own teenaged-girl troubles at school. I honestly don’t even remember when she got admission in the university, when she had her exams and when she passed out with her B.Comm degree. Weird isn’t it?
So yeah, that’s how we grew up. Then came the realization. When she went away to another city for post grad. And, I was lost like a puppy, on a foreign land, with no friendly face around. But then you get on with your life and so I did and she did too.
Now, she’s married. From not missing each others’ birthday at all to seeing each other only for an hour on birthday, things have changed. But what still remains the same is that I am still the brat and she’s still the loving Big Sister. And may be even when I’m 80 and she’s 85 (which I always like to remind her) I will still get equally annoyed about her singing wrong lyrics. I will still throw my hands up and say I am not doing anything if you’re not coming with me. I will still fight about the AC being too cold. I will still be me and she will still be my Di.
So happy birthday Mrs Sharma. Your Jhandu is here to stay. I love you “to the moon and back”
Life is a journey. Somewhere you’ll find a smooth road while on others it will be bumpy as hell! On some routes you’ll find lovely, heartwarming people while on others you’ll wonder if they’re hiding a dagger behind their back. So it’s a journey. You find your way, you duck/jump/run as and when you have to.
Are you socially acceptable? Yes? What makes you think so? Who decides who is and who isn’t socially acceptable? Oh this tag, I hate it! SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE!
When you do things that are right by the society, things which the “wise” think are “acceptable”, that’s when you become socially acceptable. So you! With the low cut top and the low waist jeans, and you! With no job, hanging out with your “good for nothing” buddies, you are socially unacceptable. I’m sorry but you are. Because in our society only the ones dressed for work are acceptable. People with dreams are not. People with year-gaps are not. People with flaws are not.
So if you wish to wait it out and see what your interests are rather than slogging your arses in 9-5 suited jobs or if you choose to wear what you want to wear please don’t expect to be a part of the accepted group. And don’t let it frustrate you either. Instead, embrace it and cherish it. Be yourself. Because the “wise” generation is not going to define your happiness. They are not going to make sure you go to bed with a content heart. They are only hear to look and judge. Of course some of them might even talk sense. But they will be the ones going the distance with you standing by your side guiding you through every phase. Not the ones who’ll stop by the road and give you looks and walk off.
So yeah. You’re not socially acceptable. But you’re acceptable to your self. Do things that your heart desires. Be rational and look out for yourself because no one knows your reality better than you. Think about your happy future and work your way towards it. Don’t give up, don’t look back and definitely don’t stop for the looks.
Let your mirror be your reality. Let that reality lead you to a better life where you’re happy being you